One of the hardest things to do that we come accross sometime in our life is to learn to let go. But it is something that sooner or later we will have to deal with and cannot afford to hold on to baggage that can cause much resentment and pain.
It is almost impossible to move on with our life because our emotions “lock down” and we are unable to move. We get stuck in the past and continuing to replay these memories is very often much like having to relive it over and over.
Letting go is often a very difficult thing to do, but there comes a time in life when we need to do it (these following letting go quotes can serve as inspiration). If we are not able to turn the page, we will continue to drag that pain and resentment.
We cannot move forward because we are emotionally stagnant. Therefore, one of the most important lessons we can learn in life is to let go of the past. Only then can we continue with a lighter load of luggage and open up to new experiences. Letting go does not mean forgetting. Letting go implies subtracting emotional impact from the experience, accepting it and moving forward.
In fact, what happens with very intense emotional experiences, such as the loss of a loved one, a breakup of a partner, a big mistake or a personal grievance, is that we do not fully assimilate them, so that they do not happen to form part of our history but they remain active in a part of our brain, reacting to the least stimulus.
These letting go quotes imply accepting the change and adapting to a new reality
The art of living implies knowing when to hold on and when to let go. – Havelock Ellis
This British doctor could not express it better. Throughout life there are times when we must hold onto what we want with all our strength, but there are also times when we must let go and change course. The key to not being shipwrecked is to find the right balance, to know when the time has come to look forward and let go of the past, no matter how much it hurts.
Some people think that clinging to things makes them stronger, but sometimes it takes more strength to let go than to hold back. – Hermann Hesse
Hermann Hesse makes us reflect on the fact that perseverance and attachment are not always the best way, even though our society has always enriched these values. There are times when it is necessary to let go, and that act implies a greater degree of maturity and demands an enormous inner strength, much more than clinging to something that no longer makes sense.
To retain is to believe that there is only the past, to let go is to know that there is a future. – Daphne Rose Kingma
We tend to cling to certain experiences because we are afraid to continue, because, in some way, we feel more comfortable in that past that no longer exists, because we do not want to leave that comfort zone. However, letting go implies looking to the future, worrying about moving forward and adapting to new things. Letting go implies, above all, confidence in the future.
Pain will leave you, when you abandon it. – Jeremy Aldana
Many people do not realize that the real cause of their suffering lies in the attachment to the past, to people or situations that no longer have space in today’s life. Actually, time does not cure everything, it is necessary to have the will to move forward, to be able to cleanse our emotional wounds and let go of resentment.
When I let go of what I am, I become what it could be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need. – Lao Tzu
This jewel of Taoism gives us a fundamental teaching for life: while we are tied to the past we will not be able to take advantage of the opportunities of the present, until we learn to let go we can not get what we really need “here and now” to be happy.
The problem of looking too much into the past is that when we turn to look to the future, it will have vanished. – Michael Cibenko
Life happens in the blink of an eye. For this reason, to live longing for the past implies letting the future escape us. Remember that every hour and every day counts. Do not let resentment and negative experiences blur the happiness you can enjoy right now.
When you give freedom to others, when you let them go, you regain your freedom. – Aleksandra Ninkovic
We are prisoners of our own mind, it is not others that keep us subject, but our resistance to free ourselves from those ties. We are ourselves, with an inordinate attachment, who keep us tied to the past, preventing us from moving forward. That is why, when we accept and let go those experiences that disturb us, we rediscover freedom and are prepared to live fully.
Letting go means realizing that some people are part of your story, but they are not your destiny. -Steve Maraboli
We must learn to see life as a train. Along the way we will share space with many people, some will be complete strangers, others will accompany us for a long distance and we will establish emotional ties. However, everyone has their own destiny, and it is necessary to learn not to cling in a sick way but to celebrate the meeting and enjoy that time in company, while it lasts.
The secret is not forgetting but letting go. And when everything is gone, you will be rich in loss. – Rebecca Solnit
This North American writer urges us to see the “loss” from another perspective. In fact, only when we learn to love in a detached way, when we learn to let go, we mature and get to know ourselves truly. In detachment, one of the basic principles of Buddhist philosophy lies the secret of personal freedom and emotional balance.
I demolished all the bridges behind me to have no other option but to move on. – Fridtjof Nansen
The main problem with letting go is that we are continually tempted to look back. The nostalgia is too strong and the uncertainty that surrounds the future too terrifying. Therefore, sometimes there is no other option than to completely cut the ties that bound us to that past. So we can walk towards the lighter future of luggage.
Source: How To Think Positive